Can I accept aspects of my life... and still deeply long for something else?

Dilemma between accepting what is and desiring more. Holding both.

There's a quiet contradiction, an internal dilemma, that many of us wrestle with, especially in a world filled with manifestation mantras, gratitude journals, and the pressure to stay positive.

Can I appreciate my cozy home, the way afternoon light fills the room, the safety it offers, the nurturing fireplace, and still long for more space, more nature, more alignment with who I’m becoming?

Can I be grateful for my relationships, my job, my current chapter, and still yearn for change?

The answer is YES. You can hold both the acceptance of what is, and the yearning for something different.

However, emotions are nuanced and often complex. Sometimes we get stuck focusing on what we desire, dimming our ability to truly appreciate the present. Other times, gratitude silences our deeper longings and risks suppressing our authentic selves and stifling our growth.

In truth, we are multifaceted beings with layered desires, and conflicting parts. We are not static. Growth doesn’t cancel gratitude, and gratitude doesn’t mean we stop evolving.

I’ve been there. I’m in the process of learning this too, and it isn’t always easy. Noticing my desire for something different first led me into self-criticism: What did I do to create this that I did not want? Why did I choose this path?

But as I work through it, I realize yearning for something different doesn’t diminish my gratitude for what is presently a gift in my life. It enriches it and shows me more of what I don’t want. The clarification process if challenging. Energetically, I can feel both pulls at once: the deep longing for what’s next and the warm appreciation for what’s here right now. Standing between two worlds takes courage and trust.  

It takes strengthening the ability of holding more than one reality at once without allowing the fight flight mechanism to take over.

Desire is not a betrayal

Its a bridge

A conversation with your soul.

A sacred whisper from the future, calling you forward.

You can love your home and still want a different one.

You can honor your present and still shape your future.

You can be grateful and still reach.

In fact, learning to hold both is a kind of spiritual maturity.

It says:

I bless what is… and I'm open to what can be.

I trust the timing… and I trust the longing.

I'm not broken for wanting more.

So if you're in a season where you're asking:

"Can I be happy here and still want to go?"

The answer is: Yes.Yes, you can.

There's space for both.

With Blessings, Taalya